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About reclinerwoman

I was diagnosed with aggressive breast cancer on 3/25/2008 and completed treatment on 11/6/2008. My cancer-free date is 8/27/2008. My desire is to encourage cancer patients and the ones who love them.

The Other Side of the Valley of Cancer

You might be surprised, disappointed or even angry to find so many issues in your life post treatment.  Recovery can be stunningly slower than your exptectations.  You may, or may not, look “fine” but you will be different in many … Continue reading

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When You Can’t Sleep, Pray

It was helpful to me to learn that other people going through cancer treatment had trouble sleeping.  My anti-nausea medication, Ativan, helped me when sleep was elusive, but you might need to ask the doctor for something specifically to help … Continue reading

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Family Funnies During Cancer, Part 2

My husband and I decided if we were not afraid, our 6 and 10 year old daughters wouldn’t be afraid either.  We were careful to package scary news to make it as easy to hear as possible.  For example, when I … Continue reading

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Family Fun During Cancer

My girls were 6 and 10 when I was diagnosed with cancer.  I typically wore a bandana around the house.  On the few days I went to work, I wore my wig.  It was summer in Florida, and that wig … Continue reading

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Choosing to Laugh: At the Hospital, part 2

For example, my radiation team wrote on me with permanent marker almost every day. I decided, if I had to have permanent ink on my body, it better be purple. One technician searched, found and gave me my own purple … Continue reading

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Choosing to Laugh: At the Hospital

Fran DiGiacomo was my mentor in laughing at cancer itself with her book “I’d Rather Do Chemo Than Clean Out the Garage: Choosing Laughter Over Tears.”  Her humor was life-giving to me. Unlike me, writing to you from the recovery … Continue reading

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Joy In Cancer Secret Three: Laughter

Cancer isn’t funny.  Cancer is big, it’s bad, and it’s awful; but my God is bigger, He’s better, and He’s awesome.  God is able to give His children joy in the middle of horror. While you are in the Valley … Continue reading

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Creative Thanks During Cancer

What if tried and true words of thanks are blatantly inappropriate coming from a cancer patient? For example, “that tastes wonderful” doesn’t work when your taste buds are on vacation with your hair.  Dear friend with cancer, break out the … Continue reading

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Cancer Thankfulness Challenges (Gracious Receiver Part 2)

Saying thank you is normal common courtesy — except cancer is not normal.  Unexpected emotions can strike happy moments, catching you, and your friend, off guard.  I was surprised and a little embarrassed when I reacted poorly to the generosity … Continue reading

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Being a Gracious Receiver during Cancer, Part 1

My friend told me I was a gracious receiver. Really? Like most women, I find joy in my care of myself and my family. An offer of help made me admit my inability to fulfill “my” responsibilities, and sometimes I … Continue reading

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